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One of the things I often see around addiction is shame. People can feel ashamed of what they are doing, ashamed that they can't seem to stop, and ashamed that they have allowed things to reach this point. Sometimes that shame can become so strong that they hide what is happening from everyone around them. They may continue going to work. They may maintain their relationships. They may appear confident and capable. But privately, they can be struggling with something they fee

When Addiction Doesn't Look Like Addiction When we think about addiction, we often have a very specific image in our minds. Someone whose life has completely fallen apart. Someone who has lost their job, their relationships or their ability to function. But addiction doesn't always look like that. In my work as a psychotherapist, I think it's important to recognise that someone can be functioning very well on the outside while struggling significantly on the inside. They can

One of the things I find particularly interesting is the gap between what we know and what we actually do. Most of us have behaviours that we know aren't necessarily good for us. We might stay up too late, work when we should be resting, keep checking our phone, avoid difficult conversations, spend money when we're stressed, drink more than we intended to, or constantly distract ourselves when we are feeling uncomfortable. Often, we already know that these behaviours aren't h

I often meet people who have been carrying a great deal of stress for a long time. Sometimes that stress comes from work. Sometimes it's family responsibilities, financial pressure, relationship difficulties or the feeling that there are simply too many things demanding their attention. Often, it's a combination of all of them. When we are under pressure for long enough, most of us will start looking for some form of relief. That might be completely harmless. We might watch t

I often meet people who don't necessarily describe themselves as stressed. Instead, they might tell me that they're tired. Irritable. Struggling to sleep. Finding it difficult to concentrate. Or simply feeling that they don't quite feel like themselves anymore. What I often find is that stress isn't always coming from one place. Someone may be dealing with pressure at work while also worrying about a family member. They may be managing a demanding career alongside raising chi

I often meet people who have worked incredibly hard to build the life and career they have. They've invested years into their profession. They've made sacrifices, taken on responsibility and worked towards promotions, qualifications and financial security. Their career is important to them, and understandably so. But sometimes, without us fully realising it, work can become more than simply something we do. It can become part of who we believe we are. When success becomes par

In my work as a psychotherapist, I often meet people who are incredibly capable. They are successful, driven and used to getting things done. They have built careers they can be proud of and are often the people others rely on. Yet some of the people who appear to be coping the best can be the ones struggling the most internally. One of the things I find particularly interesting is that the qualities that have helped someone become successful can sometimes contribute to burno

The Psychology of Always Being “On” In my work as a psychotherapist, I often hear people describe a feeling that is difficult to put into words. They aren't necessarily unhappy with their job. They may actually enjoy what they do and have worked hard to get where they are. But they feel like they are never really off. There is always another email, another message, another deadline or another problem that needs attention. Even when they're away from their desk, their mind is

In my work I sometimes meet people who tell me that they've just come back from a holiday, yet they still feel exhausted. They may have spent a week or two away from work. They've had time away from emails, meetings, deadlines and the daily pressure of their job. And yet, within a few days of returning, they feel exactly as they did before. Sometimes, they can even feel frustrated with themselves. They think, "I've just had a break. Why don't I feel better?" For me, this is o